"I don't want to take piano lessons anymore!"

image from: Insidemusicteaching.com

image from: Insidemusicteaching.com

Most students return to piano lessons looking forward to them.

But you do get that handful who just oblige to what parents say, or are just unwilling.

The question from the teacher's perspective is WHY.

Reasons I've come to acknowledge based on experience:

  • Music just isn't the kids forte... they've put in their best effort the past year (or so they claim), the teacher has done all they could -different activities, moving at a slower pace, choosing pieces of the childs interest, etc. etc. the list goes on.

What to do now?
Sometimes it's just time to let the parents know just that -their child has put in effort, you as teacher as bent over backwards thinking of different supplemental review, but it's just not clicking. One option would be to try a different teacher: because all individuals are different, and there is the same underlying value all music teachers have, but different people will bring different approaches, alternate interests, and come up with different ideas.

If you've expended yourself to the point of just disappointing yourself as an educator, it might be time to suggest the student learn with another music teacher. There's nothing wrong with you, or the student -it just might not be the right fit.

  • Another area of concern are the students who do not want to take lessons anymore.

Yes, we've all come across those who say they don't want to practice, therefor, don't want to take lessons. But for some reason, they seem to enjoy lessons when it's taking place, and practice without much of a fight with their parents reminders.

The ones I'm speaking of are the ones who have set their minds to not wanting lessons anymore (under 16 years old). They fight with their parent(s) when it's time for practice, or even when it's time for the lesson, yet parents insist on continuing because they've invested several years of study already. I usually find that the years of 'investment' was unfortunately with the wrong teacher -in the sense of clashing student -to- teacher fit, causing major irreversible scarring on the young child's musical experience.

Not very many 6 year olds can handle the intense nature of strict teachers. Yes, the teacher has good intentions on wanting to help students play well and get there quickly, but not all students are that type.

So due to past negative experiences with their previous teacher, they forever paint piano with a dark brush. You as the 'new' teacher, can only do so much to reverse that hatred for music, piano in particular, by playing games, being positive, incorporating fun activities to review basic music theory, etc. At the end of the day, if that student is still insistent on stopping lessons, it might be better for all involved -parent, student, and teacher.

 

Next post: Finding the right student -to- teacher fit.